Couples & Relationship Therapy
All relationships. All structures. All of you.
At Obsidian Care Collective, we meet you and your relationship exactly where you are. Whether you are navigating a painful disconnection, working to rebuild trust after a breach, or simply wanting to strengthen and sustain a bond that matters deeply to you, we are here. Our clinicians draw from evidence-based approaches to relationship therapy, including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Method interventions.
While each therapist brings their own style and training, our shared goal is helping partners understand the patterns that create distance, strengthen emotional safety, and develop practical skills for sustaining connection over time.
Some relationships need help understanding the deeper emotional wounds and attachment needs beneath conflict. Others need concrete tools for communication, conflict management, repair, and rebuilding trust. Most need both.
What We Work On Together
In our work together, we create space to explore:
Attachment patterns and earned security– understanding how your early experiences of closeness, safety, fear, and abandonment show up in your relationship today
Conflict and communication - learning to navigate disagreements replacing criticism, defensiveness, contempt, or shutdown with behavior that fosters connection and increases security. Developing skills that help conversations feel safer and more productive.
Rupture and repair–learning to recognize moments of disconnection, name them with honesty, and move toward each other with care
Friendship and admiration - Rediscovering what you appreciate about one another and strengthening the foundation of respect, affection, and shared meaning that supports long-term relationships.
Trust and betrayal recovery - rebuilding trust after breaches, strengthening transparency, and creating new experiences of reliability and emotional safety.
Intimacy and desire - Exploring affection, touch, sexuality, pleasure, desire, consent, and the many ways partners experience and express connection.
Embodied relationship - Understanding how stress, trauma, attachment, and nervous system patterns influence closeness, conflict, boundaries, and connection
Relationship maintenance–developing the ongoing practices that keep your connection intentional, nourishing, and alive through changing seasons of life, parenting, work stress, illness, and transition.
Evidence-Based Relationship Therapy
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) was developed in the 1980s by Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg and has a 40 year long research base. Developed from attachment theory, EFT helps partners identify the negative cycles they get stuck in – the pursuer and the withdrawer, the one who reaches out and the one who shuts down – and transform those cycles into moments of genuine emotional contact and security.
The goal is not just conflict resolution. It is a more secure, lasting bond. Decades of research have demonstrated significant improvements in relationship satisfaction, emotional connection, trust, communication, and attachment security for many couples participating in EFT. -
The Gottman Method was developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman and is grounded in more than 50 years of research on relationships and the behaviors that predict relationship success or distress.
Drawing from decades of observing thousands of couples, the Gottman Method helps partners identify the patterns that strengthen or erode connection, including criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and withdrawal. Couples learn practical skills for communication, conflict management, repair, trust-building, and deepening friendship.
The research indicates demonstrated improvements in relationship satisfaction, communication, friendship, intimacy, trust, conflict management, emotional connection, and relationship stability. Couples often report feeling better equipped to navigate both solvable problems and the perpetual differences that naturally arise in long-term relationships. -
Many couples understand their patterns intellectually but still find themselves reacting in ways they cannot explain.
Some find themselves shutting down, becoming flooded, pursuing harder, withdrawing further, or feeling disconnected from intimacy despite wanting closeness.
Our clinicians may draw from specialized trainings including Somatic Experiencing (SE), Somatic Sexual Healing (SSH), and Dynamic Attachment Repatterning Experience (DARe) to help partners understand:
1. What is happening in the body before criticism, defensiveness, withdrawal, shutdown, rage, or pursuit?
2. Why does this interaction feel so enormous? How do we co-create earned secure attachment with one another?
3. What might be happening in the body around intimacy, desire, pleasure, boundaries, consent, and sexual connection?
Who We Work With
Obsidian Care Collective welcomes couples, throuples, polycules, and all relationship structures. We are affirming of all identities, orientations, and configurations. You do not need to fit a traditional mold to deserve support–your relationship, in whatever form it takes, is worthy of care.
We work with relationships across many stages of life, including partners who are:
Feeling disconnected, lonely, or stuck in recurring conflict
Rebuilding trust after betrayal or broken agreements
Navigating parenting, caregiving, illness, or major life transitions
Exploring intimacy, desire, sexuality, or changing relationship needs
Working through attachment wounds, trauma, or patterns that continue to impact their relationships
Seeking to strengthen an already meaningful relationship
Whether you are hoping to repair a relationship, deepen an existing connection, navigate a major transition, or determine what comes next, we are committed to helping you move toward greater clarity, safety, and connection.
Announcing Obsidian Care Collective’s
Couples Monthly Enrollment Plans
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Paid in full on the date of your preference prior to the delivery of services.
Four 50 minute individual OR couple’s psychotherapy sessions per month.
One 15-30 minute phone call, as needed.
Brief, non-emergent communication via text or patient portal messaging in between sessions, as needed.
Enrollment Plans Agreements:
Initial Evaluation sessions with new patients are subject to the standard fee listed above next to CPT code 90791.
Choosing an enrollment plan will be discussed during the Initial Evaluation and can be pro-rated for the first month after the full session cost is met.
You will not be charged a late cancellation or no show fee.
Sessions do not carry over from one month to the next.
Enrollment fees are not eligible for Mentaya or OON benefits reimbursement.
Cancelled sessions will be rescheduled based on mutual availability.
Stop or modify enrollment for the following month with 7 business days notice of your next billing date.
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Paid in full on the date of your preference prior to the delivery of services.
Two 50 minute individual OR couple’s/relationship psychotherapy sessions per month.
One 15 minute phone call, as needed.
Brief, non-emergent communication via text or patient portal messaging in between sessions, as needed.
Enrollment Plans Agreements:
Initial Evaluation sessions with new patients are subject to the standard fee listed above next to CPT code 90791.
Choosing an enrollment plan will be discussed during the Initial Evaluation and can be pro-rated for the first month after the full session cost is met.
You will not be charged a late cancellation or no show fee.
Sessions do not carry over from one month to the next.
Enrollment fees are not eligible for Mentaya or OON benefits reimbursement.
Cancelled sessions will be rescheduled based on mutual availability.
Stop or modify enrollment for the following month with 7 business days notice of your next billing date.
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